Tips for Better Communication

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Find the Right Time

Try to find a time when both you and your partner are calm and not distracted, stressed, or in a rush.

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Talk Face to Face

As long as you feel safe doing so, talk in person so there aren’t any unnecessary miscommunications.

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Do Not Attack

Using “you” can sound like you’re attacking, try using “I” or “we.”

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Be Honest

Admit that you aren’t always perfect and apologize when you make a mistake instead of making excuses.

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Check Your Body Language

Make eye contact when speaking. Sit up and face your partner. Let your partner know you’re listening. Show them you really care.

Use the 48-Hour Rule

Taking a little time to process how you’re feeling can be helpful for reacting in a healthy way. If you’re still hurt 48 hours later, say something (and try using the tips on this page!).