Texting & Sexting

Next to talking one-on-one, texting is currently one of the most instant forms of communication. While texting might be the perfect platform to say a quick “hi,” there are some things to watch out for in a textual relationship with your partner.1

Texting too much

If your partner texts too much, it’s not only irritating, but it could be unhealthy. Keeping in touch with your significant other throughout the day can be thoughtful, but constant contact may be a sign of controlling behaviour. Consider talking to your partner about giving you a little bit of space. Remember, if they’re using text messages to monitor who you’re with or where you go, that is a warning sign of abuse.

Sexting

You have the right to choose whether or not you want to engage in any kind of sexual activity, and that includes sexting with your partner. If your partner is pressuring or forcing you to sext when you don’t want to, or if you sexted privately with your partner and they are breaking your trust by threatening to share your photos or texts, these are abusive behaviours.

Reading someone else’s texts

Healthy relationships are built on trust, not jealousy. You have the right to privacy and the ability to talk to whomever you like. You may want to explain to your partner that you have nothing to hide, but that you don’t like them going through your phone or deciding who your friends are.

Threats over text

Threats over text should be taken seriously — try not to write them off as angry venting. Keep track of threatening texts and think about talking to someone you trust about what is happening. Being in a violent relationship is dangerous, and you don’t have to go through it alone.

  1. Texting and Sexting: Next to talking one-on-one, texting is currently one of the most instant forms of communication. While texting might be the perfect platform to say a quick “hi,” there are some things to watch out for in a textual relationship with your partner.
    National Domestic Violence Hotline. (2020). Texting and sexting. Love is Respect. ↩︎